Learning How to Accept Change

First of all, I want to apologize for skipping last week! Things have been absolutely crazy on my end and I wasn’t able to get this out in time. I’ve gone over two years without skipping a week, so I felt terrible about it. Anyway, please enjoy this week’s topic!

Life changes are typically bittersweet when they happen. You can be in a miserable situation for a long period of time, and still be sad when change is finally taking place. Even though it’s one of the top 10 cliche sayings of all time, you really never know what you have until it’s gone. Now even though there were probably some positives in your previous situation, that still doesn’t mean that it was healthy or beneficial for you to maintain it. It can be hard to not reminisce on the good times and let those times influence your future. Like almost everything in life, these principles are pretty universal in the different areas in your life such as work, your personal life, school, family, health, etc. Even though I’m still learning on how to more easily accept change in my life, the following things are what have personally helped me as of late. Continue reading

Showing Your Support by Reading In Between the Lines

I’m an only child who grew up being somewhat shy and introverted. Even though in our society those traits can be considered negative, I’m actually incredibly thankful. Growing up as a fairly quiet child, I learned one valuable skill: the art of paying attention! Over time I became a good listener, started paying attention to details, and  observed people and situations closely. It made me realize that there are so many forms of communication that are completely overlooked, since they aren’t actually spoken. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that the unspoken communication is more important in the long run. We tend to be so afraid of the backlash we might receive or the consequences we have to face by speaking out, that we often end up bottling everything in until it comes seeping out in passive aggressive body language and behavior. So, you’re probably asking yourself what my point is here. Well, I’ve learned that by paying attention to these social cues from your peers you can prevent certain emotions from escalating. These in my opinion are the best ways to start reading between the lines and show your support. Continue reading

How Having a Team Player Mindset Helps You In Every Aspect of Your Life

I’m so sorry to make you go through this, but I want you to remember a time when you were in a stressful group project situation. I know, I’m pure evil. I’m sorry again, but I promise you there is a point to all of this. If you were one of the lucky ones, you had AT LEAST one other person who was also a team player (assuming that you were also a good group partner)! Those one or two people made you believe in the good of humanity all over again! Whether they saved you from getting chewed out by a client, failing your class, or just keeping your sanity, you were extremely thankful for their mere existence. Now what if I told you that this is your karma-filled moment to pass it on throughout the many areas of your life? Having a collaborative mindset can positively affect your career, education, relationship, family, and health. Let me explain what I mean… Continue reading

Getting Over the Initial Adjustment Period

We’ve all been there. Whether you’re attending a new school, starting a new job, or even adjusting to a major shift in your personal life- the beginning period typically sucks. Will the new people like me? Did I just make a huge mistake? What have I done? I’m pretty sure we’ve all asked ourselves these questions at one point or another. Even some of my fondest memories evolved from an initial rocky adjustment period. I look back at my time at San Diego Mesa College with rose-colored lenses, but I remember my first month there was rough! I was taking the bus, I wasn’t sure about two of my classes, and I barely knew anyone. A couple months later it felt just like home! It’s easy to lose sight of these things, but eventually we all adjust to what we consider a new norm. If you never quite adjust, it’s time to take it as a sign to move on from that situation completely! Well if you want my advice, here it is:  Continue reading

Is Your Life Getting TOO Comfortable?

Sometimes in life we get a little bit too comfortable with our surroundings. Being comfortable is good since it reflects a sense of stability and reliability, but sometimes it can hold us back from accomplishing so much more and ultimately moving forward. I tend to get myself in situations where I’m so comfortable that I start to get uncomfortable, if that even makes any sense. I am a creature of habit, but I still like some spontaneity in my life. Here is what has helped me in the past when it comes to mixing it up in a healthy way! Continue reading

Getting What You Want Out of Life

I see the same theme in both the young and old lately- the notion that we can’t always get what we want out of life and we just need to roll with the punches. Even though I agree with this to some degree, it feels like we’re just inspiring an entire generation to give up on the things they’ve been dreaming about since they were little kids. Whether it’s a career, a material possession, or finding that special someone, we’ve all become somewhat jaded by the mass amount of horrible circumstances that have plagued others. Even though I’ve had a fair share of things in my life go completely wrong lately, there are things in my life I accomplished by believing they were possible from the get-go. Of course it takes a pinch of motivation and ambition as well for these things to happen, but it all starts with your mentality. Below I break down where you can start with attaining your goals. Continue reading

Have You Ever Thought of Investing in Yourself?

There have been many times where I felt like I was stuck in this unavoidable rut in life. What always had helped me in the past, was looking at things like they were short-term. Every semester in college I would count down the weeks until break and graduation. As the saying goes, “No pain, no gain.” Where I’ve always had a struggle, is when I feel this way, but there isn’t an end-date anywhere in site. So how do you get yourself out of this situation? Well, it won’t be easy. This is where you have to take a long deep breath, evaluate yourself, and decide which path of self-investment is right for you. Continue reading