No matter how Type-A or spontaneous of a person you are, you’ve probably had a plan at one point in your life that fell-through. Depending on how much prep work you’ve put into this said plan, you may have been pretty devastated when it derailed from your perfectly placed track. Just like you I’ve been there as well (many times). I think one of the toughest lessons I’ve had to learn on my own is that things often don’t go according to plan. Even though we live in a plan-oriented society when it comes to getting through college, getting a promotion at work, or even just saving up to buy a home, life doesn’t always see eye-to-eye with you. You may have done literally EVERYTHING right or as according to your plan as possible, but somehow things still didn’t work out. Even though this is a terrible pain to bare, you’ll eventually be able to move on and alternate your timeline and goals. Below are my tips for getting through this painful process.
I’m so sorry to make you go through this, but I want you to remember a time when you were in a stressful group project situation. I know, I’m pure evil. I’m sorry again, but I promise you there is a point to all of this. If you were one of the lucky ones, you had AT LEAST one other person who was also a team player (assuming that you were also a good group partner)! Those one or two people made you believe in the good of humanity all over again! Whether they saved you from getting chewed out by a client, failing your class, or just keeping your sanity, you were extremely thankful for their mere existence. Now what if I told you that this is your karma-filled moment to pass it on throughout the many areas of your life? Having a collaborative mindset can positively affect your career, education, relationship, family, and health. Let me explain what I mean… Continue reading
Since Thanksgiving is tomorrow, I thought I might as well dedicate this blog post to being thankful for all the little things in our lives. Without going into too much detail, I’ve hated this year with every fiber of my being. Every time things seemed to be getting better, something worse would trump (for lack of a better word) the previous disaster. It became extremely difficult to focus on the positive aspects of my life. Do you know how hard it is to be pessimistic and run a weekly advice/inspiration blog?!? Trust me, it starts to take a toll when you feel like a fraud. Don’t get me wrong, I still struggle with being hopeful, but at least things seem to be going back to normal again. Once many of the negatives in my life started morphing into positives, I started to take notice of all the things I have to be thankful for. In our darkest hours, I think we tend to lose sight of these things. Well now I’m here to shed some thankfulness on you as well! So, you should be thankful for: Continue reading
One of the funny things about life, is that it continues to throw curveballs at us even when we think we have everything planned out. I tend to feel this way, A LOT! I think ever since I became a fan of planning for my long-term goals, I tend to become extremely panicked when things are simply beyond my control. I’m always shocked when either an individual or organization that I respect is lousy at giving me a solid answer and/or plan. Sometimes, I’m not even sure if I’m more frustrated or jealous that I’m more prepared than them. Lately, there have been multiple occasions where I’ve been faced with the rude awakening that sometimes you just have to have a leap of faith. The idea of this drives me just as nuts as the next person, but it’s true. Here’s what has helped me cope with this in past situations. Continue reading
I’m kind of excited to cover this week’s topic, because it’s a bit of a challenge for me to write about! One of my dedicated readers asked me if I could write a blog post on the subject of what to do when you like someone who doesn’t feel the same way about you. For privacy reasons, I can’t reveal who it is, but I appreciate the topic suggestion! If anyone else ever has a suggestion on a topic they want me to cover in future posts, please email me at email@example.com. Continue reading
Change can be good or bad, but either way it tends to throw us through a loop. I always equate change with the old saying, “When it rains it pours.” Even though this saying tends to refer to a sequence of bad things happening, I think it applies to sequences of good things happening as well. In my life I tend to go through many good changes at once, or many bad changes at once. Even though I prefer a series of good changes, life can become very stressful either way. I still haven’t mastered how to properly deal with rapid life changes, but here is what I’ve learned so far. Continue reading
In this day and age, it almost sounds insane to be young and in a serious relationship. Not only that, but to keep that relationship going for 5 and a half years and all the way through college? People look at you like your absolutely nuts, especially out here in southern California. In a strange way it’s kind of flattering that you can do something that a lot of people can’t in your generation, but most of the time it gets kind of annoying having to constantly explain that you’re happy being with this person. Continue reading