Help Me, I’m Stuck!

I’m writing to you with a little bit of shame weighing on my shoulders. It’s been over a month since I’ve written my last blog post, and I’m a bit disappointed in myself. I typically pride myself on never missing a week and making sure that I’m always prepared, but I’m not going to lie- I needed the break. Life got hectic, very hectic. Not just for a little bit, but honestly probably since about two years ago. Between upsets in my personal life, health, work life, etc. I was beginning to slowly lose my mind. Instead of confronting my problems head-on, I kept hiding behind the everything’s alright mindset. I continued cranking out blog posts even when I felt as bland as a ham and cheese sandwich. Now that a lot of my issues have either resided or solved themselves, I’m finding myself in this mental rut. Not just regarding the blog, but on EVERYTHING. What am I doing with my life? Am I where I need to be right now? How come some things have changed drastically, while some things never change? A tornado of doubts and worries storm up in my mind resulting in a physical, zombie-like numbness. After talking to many of my mid-20s counterparts, this turns out to be so common that it’s scary. Most change doesn’t happen overnight, so what can we do in the meantime to get ourselves back on the yellow-brick road to optimism, creativity, and excitement? I’ve been seriously thinking about this a lot lately, and these categories are where I think the answer(s) lie. Continue reading

How To Prepare Yourself for Life’s Diversions

No matter how Type-A or spontaneous of a person you are, you’ve probably had a plan at one point in your life that fell-through. Depending on how much prep work you’ve put into this said plan, you may have been pretty devastated when it derailed from your perfectly placed track. Just like you I’ve been there as well (many times). I think one of the toughest lessons I’ve had to learn on my own is that things often don’t go according to plan. Even though we live in a plan-oriented society when it comes to getting through college, getting a promotion at work, or even just saving up to buy a home, life doesn’t always see eye-to-eye with you. You may have done literally EVERYTHING right or as according to your plan as possible, but somehow things still didn’t work out. Even though this is a terrible pain to bare, you’ll eventually be able to move on and alternate your timeline and goals. Below are my tips for getting through this painful process.

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Showing Your Support by Reading In Between the Lines

I’m an only child who grew up being somewhat shy and introverted. Even though in our society those traits can be considered negative, I’m actually incredibly thankful. Growing up as a fairly quiet child, I learned one valuable skill: the art of paying attention! Over time I became a good listener, started paying attention to details, and  observed people and situations closely. It made me realize that there are so many forms of communication that are completely overlooked, since they aren’t actually spoken. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that the unspoken communication is more important in the long run. We tend to be so afraid of the backlash we might receive or the consequences we have to face by speaking out, that we often end up bottling everything in until it comes seeping out in passive aggressive body language and behavior. So, you’re probably asking yourself what my point is here. Well, I’ve learned that by paying attention to these social cues from your peers you can prevent certain emotions from escalating. These in my opinion are the best ways to start reading between the lines and show your support. Continue reading

How Having a Team Player Mindset Helps You In Every Aspect of Your Life

I’m so sorry to make you go through this, but I want you to remember a time when you were in a stressful group project situation. I know, I’m pure evil. I’m sorry again, but I promise you there is a point to all of this. If you were one of the lucky ones, you had AT LEAST one other person who was also a team player (assuming that you were also a good group partner)! Those one or two people made you believe in the good of humanity all over again! Whether they saved you from getting chewed out by a client, failing your class, or just keeping your sanity, you were extremely thankful for their mere existence. Now what if I told you that this is your karma-filled moment to pass it on throughout the many areas of your life? Having a collaborative mindset can positively affect your career, education, relationship, family, and health. Let me explain what I mean… Continue reading

How Moving Forward is the Key to Happiness

I don’t know if you can tell from many of the topics that I’ve covered over the last several months, but my life has been extremely weird lately. And I don’t mean the good kind of weird either. Even though things are starting to improve, the process is taking a whole lot longer than I was expecting it to. Remarkably, despite little actual progress, my attitude and outlook has changed considerably. I realized that these things started changing as soon as I had hope about the future again. I’ve always been a hopeful person, so when I started losing hope in my future, I felt my personality changing for the worst. Once I started striving for things down the road, I noticed my current situation changing. Here’s what helped me… Continue reading

How Having Empathy (or at least Sympathy) Can Drastically Change Your Life

sym·pa·thy

ˈsimpəTHē/

noun

1. feelings of pity and sorrow for someone else’s misfortune.“they had great sympathy for the flood victims”

synonyms:

compassioncaringconcernsolicitudeempathy

em·pa·thy

ˈempəTHē/

noun

1. the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.

Sometimes it can be hard for us to see outside or our own bubble of stress! Depending on our experiences, we can either become more enlightened or jaded towards other people’s behaviors, actions, or dilemmas. It’s easy to judge others from afar, but it’s much harder to walk a mile in their shoes. It’s almost completely impossible to have empathy for others in every single situation, but you can at least develop some kind of sympathy towards the person and their situation. Here’s where having empathy and sympathy has helped me personally lately. Continue reading

Knowing How to Ask for Help

Let me start off this week’s topic by saying, I have learned a very valuable lesson lately. For the last year, I’ve been internally harboring my feelings to the point that it’s severely effecting my life. Not to sound like I’m bragging or anything, but I graduated college, found a good job, beat my health scare, and accomplished even more difficult feats. By getting through these situations, I drove myself to believing that I can ultimately help myself through anything. Even though I’m a fairly independent person, there were several weekends where I felt so alone and sad, that I’d sit in my bed for hours and avoid everyone. After a while, I started to realize that by trying to help myself, I was in-turn shutting myself off from the outside world. Sometimes we don’t realize how many people and resources there are out there to help you get through the rough patches of your life. Here are some key takeaways that I think will help you too! Continue reading