No matter how Type-A or spontaneous of a person you are, you’ve probably had a plan at one point in your life that fell-through. Depending on how much prep work you’ve put into this said plan, you may have been pretty devastated when it derailed from your perfectly placed track. Just like you I’ve been there as well (many times). I think one of the toughest lessons I’ve had to learn on my own is that things often don’t go according to plan. Even though we live in a plan-oriented society when it comes to getting through college, getting a promotion at work, or even just saving up to buy a home, life doesn’t always see eye-to-eye with you. You may have done literally EVERYTHING right or as according to your plan as possible, but somehow things still didn’t work out. Even though this is a terrible pain to bare, you’ll eventually be able to move on and alternate your timeline and goals. Below are my tips for getting through this painful process.
I’m so sorry to make you go through this, but I want you to remember a time when you were in a stressful group project situation. I know, I’m pure evil. I’m sorry again, but I promise you there is a point to all of this. If you were one of the lucky ones, you had AT LEAST one other person who was also a team player (assuming that you were also a good group partner)! Those one or two people made you believe in the good of humanity all over again! Whether they saved you from getting chewed out by a client, failing your class, or just keeping your sanity, you were extremely thankful for their mere existence. Now what if I told you that this is your karma-filled moment to pass it on throughout the many areas of your life? Having a collaborative mindset can positively affect your career, education, relationship, family, and health. Let me explain what I mean… Continue reading
As much as I hate to admit this out loud, there have been many times where I’ve held myself back without even realizing it. At the end of the day, we are all our biggest enemy and our biggest cheerleader. Even though that sounds like an oxymoron, I’m sure you know what I mean. Only you can hold yourself back and only you can bring yourself to move forward. Sometimes we unintentionally hold ourselves back from a situation and don’t realize the damage we’ve caused until years down the road. Here are some signs that you need to look out for to avoid this from happening to you. Continue reading
I don’t know if you can tell from many of the topics that I’ve covered over the last several months, but my life has been extremely weird lately. And I don’t mean the good kind of weird either. Even though things are starting to improve, the process is taking a whole lot longer than I was expecting it to. Remarkably, despite little actual progress, my attitude and outlook has changed considerably. I realized that these things started changing as soon as I had hope about the future again. I’ve always been a hopeful person, so when I started losing hope in my future, I felt my personality changing for the worst. Once I started striving for things down the road, I noticed my current situation changing. Here’s what helped me… Continue reading
After getting through a rough period of your life, things can be messy. Literally. In fact, every great organizational system that I’ve come up with was due to something in my life that was previously disastrous. I still remember feeling all out of sorts during my very first semester of college. There were now so many assignments and exams to balance, along with expenses and access codes. I remember writing things down randomly, but I didn’t have a good way to keep track of everything that was being thrown at me. That’s when I decided to start using a planner and coming up with a method to separate all of my priorities within one single item. Here are a few of my favorite ways to stay organized! Continue reading
Let me start off this week’s topic by saying, I have learned a very valuable lesson lately. For the last year, I’ve been internally harboring my feelings to the point that it’s severely effecting my life. Not to sound like I’m bragging or anything, but I graduated college, found a good job, beat my health scare, and accomplished even more difficult feats. By getting through these situations, I drove myself to believing that I can ultimately help myself through anything. Even though I’m a fairly independent person, there were several weekends where I felt so alone and sad, that I’d sit in my bed for hours and avoid everyone. After a while, I started to realize that by trying to help myself, I was in-turn shutting myself off from the outside world. Sometimes we don’t realize how many people and resources there are out there to help you get through the rough patches of your life. Here are some key takeaways that I think will help you too! Continue reading
I wasn’t always this way, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve become quite the “Paranoid Pauline”. I think as life started to slowly burden me with more responsibilities and stress factors, I started to overthink EVERYTHING. From constantly checking if I had certain necessities in my purse, wondering if people whispering from far away were talking about me, to questioning if something was actually happening, there was a period of time in my life where my paranoia started negatively playing a major role in my life. I justified my thought process by pretending it was a normal side effect of growing up. Even though I can still be a fairly paranoid person, I now realize that I need a grasp on reality in order to succeed. Here’s how I started dealing and preventing my paranoia. Continue reading