I’m writing to you with a little bit of shame weighing on my shoulders. It’s been over a month since I’ve written my last blog post, and I’m a bit disappointed in myself. I typically pride myself on never missing a week and making sure that I’m always prepared, but I’m not going to lie- I needed the break. Life got hectic, very hectic. Not just for a little bit, but honestly probably since about two years ago. Between upsets in my personal life, health, work life, etc. I was beginning to slowly lose my mind. Instead of confronting my problems head-on, I kept hiding behind the everything’s alright mindset. I continued cranking out blog posts even when I felt as bland as a ham and cheese sandwich. Now that a lot of my issues have either resided or solved themselves, I’m finding myself in this mental rut. Not just regarding the blog, but on EVERYTHING. What am I doing with my life? Am I where I need to be right now? How come some things have changed drastically, while some things never change? A tornado of doubts and worries storm up in my mind resulting in a physical, zombie-like numbness. After talking to many of my mid-20s counterparts, this turns out to be so common that it’s scary. Most change doesn’t happen overnight, so what can we do in the meantime to get ourselves back on the yellow-brick road to optimism, creativity, and excitement? I’ve been seriously thinking about this a lot lately, and these categories are where I think the answer(s) lie.
Stop Being a Negative Nelly
I’ve noticed that the older I get, the more negative I tend to be as well. Unfortunately, this is a super common phenomena. Don’t get me wrong, we have every reason to be bitter and to carry resentment with us in our day-to-day lives, but being this way doesn’t solve anything. Not only are we bumming out the people around us when we behave this way, but we also are subconsciously telling ourselves that nothing will ever work out. When you give up hope, you become numb. Even though numb might sound nice, you’re also preventing yourself from feeling the good things in life such as gratification and happiness.
Incorporate Small Little “Happy” Moments in Your Daily Routine
There are so many things that we are pressured into doing “by the book” such as being on time, sticking to a certain dress code or refraining from making certain comments, that we need to indulge in the little things here and there to stay sane. Even though I’m a big fan of saving money where I can, I get a wild orange hot tea from the coffee stand at my job a few times a week. Not only does it give me an excuse to leave my desk, but I love the smell and taste of the orange and herbal ingredients. It helps calm my nerves and give me a sense of serenity. Could I bring my own tea to work? Of course I can, but this is my little escape on the days where my anxiety is at an all-time high. Even though this may sound insignificant, the little things can make your day much more enjoyable. For you this might mean listening to your favorite song before work or watching something funny on your break. Whatever it is, make sure you enjoy it!
Make Mandatory Time For Your Passions
This is an extremely tough thing to do, but it is doable! For the most part (up until lately, that is) I was able to keep up with posting weekly blog posts. This was while I was having many unforeseen things happening in my life, working a full-time job and at one point, going to school full-time. Was it easy? Of course not. I spent so many lunch breaks eating with one hand and typing with the other. Was it worth it? Yes, it definitely was. Not only did writing these blog posts help give me a sense of purpose, but they also helped many of my readers. I can’t tell you how many times someone has come up to me and either told me that they learned a new skill or that I helped them feel better about a problem they were dealing with. Even though I don’t gain any direct revenue from this blog, hearing that kind of feedback is enough of a reward on its own. No matter what your particular passion is, and no matter how much effort and perseverance you need to keep it alive, I say go for it! You’d be amazed at how the end result can change your entire perspective.
Keep Your Daydreams Alive
This is necessary to stay hopeful in this lifetime. I started feeling my goals and hopes that I had been playing over and over again in my head since my early college days, dwindling right before my eyes over the course of the past two years. Not only is it depressing to start giving up on the things you worked so hard for, but it’s downright soul-crushing. Has my life gone “according to plan”? No, it hasn’t. Am I going to let that stop me from moving forward? Now that I’ve had time to really focus on what I want, my answer is — hell no! I did not work my butt off through five years of college and countless minimum-wage jobs to end up jaded and not moving forward with myself mentally. No matter what your story is, don’t give up. Giving up will always be tempting, especially when times are extremely tough, but you’ll never have anything to be truly proud of if you do.
Make Unique Weekend Plans
The weekdays are monotonous, especially in our corporate-obsessed society, so why not have a blast on your days off? As someone who would love to be sleeping 24/7, I know that it’s hard to be motivated on the weekends since you’re probably exhausted. Even though it’s an endless cycle, try to break free by making a really fun & unique weekend plan at least once a month! Not only does this keep things fresh and exciting, but it helps you put the grand scheme of your life and priorities into perspective. Sometimes we need a brief escape to truly understand how isolated we’ve been from the outside world.
Get Inspired By Someone You Admire
It can take seeing someone we look up to enjoying theirselves, before we attempt to better our own lives. I know that I’ve personally been convinced at times that I’m supposed to feel bored and sad, because a lot of other people feel bored and sad too. Even though their are little bits of truth in that when it comes to certain aspects of life, it doesn’t mean that you have to feel that way all the time or even the majority of the time. Let yourself feel new things and partake in new experiences by seeing what opportunities are even out there to begin with. I love browsing on social platforms such as Instagram and Pinterest for when I need some inspiration. If you need more ideas on how to get inspired, read this blog post of mine.
I hope this week’s post helped, and I’m super sorry again for taking an extended hiatus! Please comment with questions or thoughts below!
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What helps you get un-stuck when life becomes overwhelming?