As much as I hate to admit this out loud, there have been many times where I’ve held myself back without even realizing it. At the end of the day, we are all our biggest enemy and our biggest cheerleader. Even though that sounds like an oxymoron, I’m sure you know what I mean. Only you can hold yourself back and only you can bring yourself to move forward. Sometimes we unintentionally hold ourselves back from a situation and don’t realize the damage we’ve caused until years down the road. Here are some signs that you need to look out for to avoid this from happening to you.
Dwelling on the Past
We can’t change what happened in the past. PERIOD. This has been a very hard thing for me to come to grips with lately, but once I take a deep breath and step back, I realize that dwelling on the past has been holding me back drastically. I tend to focus on the negatives and question why certain things ever happened in the first place. There’s a fine line between moving on and not repeating the same mistakes again. Trust me, it’s a torturous mental purgatory to put yourself in, but learn from the past and try move on in a quick yet healthy fashion. The more you dwell, the more you make a mountain out of a mole hill. Unfortunately, that won’t get you anywhere.
Being Too Selfless
For a little while, I got to the point where every action and decision I made was based on someone else. I slowly got myself into a position where I was putting my priorities at the very bottom of the list. All of a sudden I woke up one day and realized that I was completely miserable. I believe in being a selfless person a majority of the time, but at the end of the day you need to be a little selfish! Unfortunately the world isn’t a perfect system, so chances are that others won’t put the same devotion and dedication into you as you’ve put into them. It’s not that other people mean for this to happen, but we’re humans by nature and tend to take advantage of situations.
Avoiding Things Outside of Your Comfort Zone
I wasn’t totally thrown out of my comfort zone until I was in college and had to participate in things I totally didn’t want to for my associates and bachelors degrees. At the time I was mad that I couldn’t opt out of those cringe-worthy events and interviews, but now I’m so glad that I was put in those seemingly unbearable situations. It forced me to become more sociable, professional, and confident. I still hate participating in those kinds of things to this day, but now I’m much better at preparing for any situation and/or opportunity that may arise.
Lack of Making any Decision at All
This is where I see so many of my peers struggle. Decision making can be downright frightening! Our minds tend to immediately go to the “what-ifs” that are lurking deep inside. I find that most people ask, “What if I make the wrong decision?” Well, lack of making any decision at all can keep you back from making the right decision too! Unfortunately, you have to take risks for any success to ever happen. Also, lack of making a decision might cause others in your life to pursue their lives elsewhere.
The goal of this blog post is not to deter you or make you feel like a failure, but to help you sort out your life and help you move forward. Success means different things to all of us, but you still need to avoid these mistakes to obtain it at all!
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