Let me start off this week’s topic by saying, I have learned a very valuable lesson lately. For the last year, I’ve been internally harboring my feelings to the point that it’s severely effecting my life. Not to sound like I’m bragging or anything, but I graduated college, found a good job, beat my health scare, and accomplished even more difficult feats. By getting through these situations, I drove myself to believing that I can ultimately help myself through anything. Even though I’m a fairly independent person, there were several weekends where I felt so alone and sad, that I’d sit in my bed for hours and avoid everyone. After a while, I started to realize that by trying to help myself, I was in-turn shutting myself off from the outside world. Sometimes we don’t realize how many people and resources there are out there to help you get through the rough patches of your life. Here are some key takeaways that I think will help you too!
Go Out With Some of Your Closest Friends
It’s incredibly easy to forget how many people actually care about you in this life, especially the older you get. Many of my friends left San Diego after high school, and the ones that stayed started going in different directions in their lives. I had a few friends that I knew I could count on, but I started thinking that the other ones somewhat had forgotten about me. What I’ve learned recently is that I was absolutely wrong. People I didn’t even know had my back started coming out of the woodwork. I would meet up with a group of people and suddenly I realized that all of these people were here to console me, listen, give advice, etc. Even if you’re not spending all night venting (which you shouldn’t do anyway), having friends around makes you feel loved and helps get your mind off the problem at hand.
Do Things That Give You Confidence
Sometimes it’s easy to forget what makes us all special. The second you start trying to boost your confidence, you’ll instantaneously start to feel better. Go ahead and wear that outfit that makes you feel good, tell that story that cracks everyone up, and smile as much as you can without looking like a serial killer. Even though these tips sound kind of pointless in the grand scheme of things, you’d be surprised just how much of an impression they can have on you and the people around you. The more radiant you appear to be, the more people will actually want to be around you. You’ll also start to see that there is hope and that everyone that cares about you wants to see you happy.
Ask Someone to Listen
This is probably one of the hardest things to do, even though it should be the easiest. Sometimes we just need to ask someone (whether it’s a friend, family member, spouse, etc.) to just listen for a little bit. This is usually where you see gender come into play. Men tend to want to be problem-solvers, where women usually just want to rant without having to hear any advice in return. If you want advice, make sure you let the listener know and that you’re actually mentally prepared for it. If you know you can’t handle advice right now, make sure you tell the listener that as well. Sometimes receiving too much advice at once can have a more negative impact than a positive one. Make sure you know what you want to do before going into conversations like this, or you’ll end up unfairly blaming the messenger.
Don’t Be Too Stubborn to Ask for Professional Help
This is where it can be extremely tough for many people. We have a negative stigma in our society when it comes to asking for professional help. You may have heard terms such as shrink or crazy doctor, but psychiatrists and therapists can be an excellent tool for many people. It can be hard to admit you’ve gotten to the point of needing professional help, but it doesn’t have to be a bad thing! Sometimes all we need is a listener who has absolutely no bias towards our situation or circumstance. If you’re feeling like you can’t pull yourself out of this particular funk, look into what your health insurance has to offer.
A lot of us don’t like to admit when we need help, but we all do at some point or another. Try some of these tips, but remember at the end of the day you ultimately know internally what is best for you.
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Question of the Week:
What is a time where someone really helped you out?