Admit it, we all like to occasionally wallow in a shallow pool of our own self-pity. Why do we do this? We do this because of perspective. Ironically, the only way to keep from drowning in it is by using the power of perspective. “Haley, you’re not making any sense.” I get it, I’m contradicting myself here. Well, let me explain to you what I mean.
The “Why Me?” Phenomenon
Almost everyone I know (including myself) has fallen into the “Why Me?” pit of doom. Why can’t I find my dream job? Why can’t I buy a house? Why do they get a discount and I don’t? Why can’t I find a partner? All of a sudden, “why, why why?” becomes “blah, blah, blah” to everyone else around you. We all do it, but we also all get sick of when everyone else does it. How do we even end up in this dark place? Well it’s because we’re putting our life and accomplishments in perspective to people we deem as more successful than us. We all travel the path to success at different rates and some of us have the privilege of accessing short cuts, while others have no option but to trek the long road ahead. The key to realizing this is by flipping perspective on its head and approaching this with a different attitude.
Time to Focus on The Positives
Now try putting your life and accomplishments in perspective to people you deem less successful than you. I know this sounds entirely selfish, but you don’t have to voice this out loud. This is what we call a silent reflection (hahaha)! Otherwise, you sound like a jerk and no one will want to hang out with you. In all seriousness though, think about where you are compared to others. You’ll start to realize all of the things that you should be thankful for. It could be as simple as not having to take the bus, or it could be something as serious as having freedom of speech. There is always going to be someone that is better off than you, and there is always going to be someone that has it worse off than you. Never forget that.
Take a “No Pain, No Gain” Approach
Let’s say that where you are in life is not where you want to be. Maybe you’re stuck in a job, relationship, or housing situation that you hate. In most cases, you can change your situation if you really put your mind to it. This will most definitely require you to get out of your comfort zone. You might have to go back to school, get back to networking, move to a new apartment, or start dating again. Even though the initial stages will most likely be rough, you’ll be glad you changed your situation. Without putting in hard work, you’ll never get those fantastic results!
Reflect on How Far You’ve Come
This is one of those things that’s way easier said than done. When I’m in one of my moping moods, it’s hard to clearly see just how far I’ve come in the last couple years. I tend to wrap my mind around the little things and lose sight of the important accomplishments I’ve made. Not only do I now have two college degrees and an extensive list of work experiences, but I’m also finally learning the skills I need to succeed with my creative-driven passions. Also, I’ve been able to consistently post on my weekly blog (even during times where I literally have no time). I usually forget about these achievements, but it’s healthy for me to look back every once in a while to see how much I’ve grown within the last five years. I say this, because you should be doing this too!
Remember, perspective can be a helpful yet dangerous tool! Be careful to not get too wrapped up in other people’s accomplishments and focus on your own path to success!
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Question of the Week:
What is an accomplishment you’ve made that you’re proud of?