In this day and age, it almost sounds insane to be young and in a serious relationship. Not only that, but to keep that relationship going for 5 and a half years and all the way through college? People look at you like your absolutely nuts, especially out here in southern California. In a strange way it’s kind of flattering that you can do something that a lot of people can’t in your generation, but most of the time it gets kind of annoying having to constantly explain that you’re happy being with this person.
By far, the frequently asked questions I get are the worst. Each question implies that there is some kind of expiration date on every relationship. I know in modern day America that many relationships fail (seriously, there are more divorce lawyers than drug dealers on every street corner), but sometimes people are happy with their significant other and hope to keeps things going strong. My philosophy? If it’s not broken, don’t fix it.
Please don’t get me wrong! I’m not trying to put down people that don’t want to stay in their current relationship or marriage. If you are unhappy or in an abusive relationship, by all means make the decision that is best for you! There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single, I just personally hate this stigma that we all have to be single until our late 20s, meet some random person in a bar or on Tinder, and just hope that it magically works out. That’s what my generation has become and I personally think it’s pretty dumb.
Anyway, these are some of the questions I’ve been asked:
#1. You’re just a baby! Don’t you want to explore the world and see what’s out there?
That’s what Christopher Columbus did and he brought small pox to America (just saying). Also, I can still explore the world and have unique experiences while being in a relationship. It’s not as if I was put on immediate house arrest the second we started dating. Plus, there are many places including San Jose and parts of Los Angeles that I probably would never have visited on my own.
#2. Are you pregnant? Are you sure you’re not pregnant?
Just because I cheated on my diet today and ate a Chipotle burrito, doesn’t mean you have to hurt my feelings! But in all seriousness, a baby should never be the reason to keep a marriage/relationship together. It’s great if that is what you want, but otherwise it’s putting even more pressures on your relationship that don’t necessarily need to exist. Plus, people can be in long-term relationships without having children. People do it all the time!
#3. Why Don’t You Just Get Married Already?
There are several reasons why! I just graduated college and my boyfriend is still finishing up his bachelor’s degree. We have no reason to get married right away, and I honestly can’t afford a wedding right now. I can barely afford to touch up my roots or buy a new pair of shoes. At this point I wouldn’t consider it a commitment issue, but more of a financial one.
#4. How Do You Know He’s the One?
Well that’s a loaded question! Who technically ever knows the answer to that question until they look completely back at their life? All you can do is find someone that treats you with respect, loves you from the bottom of their heart, and then hope that you made the right choice. If it’s meant to be, then it’s meant to be.
#5. Don’t You Miss Being Single?
I think everyone misses certain parts of being single, but there are also parts that I don’t miss at all. Sometimes I miss going out with a group of girls to have a good time or being spontaneous, but I can still do that within reason. On the other hand, there are many times I needed a shoulder to cry on, someone to pig out with at Sonic, and someone to make lame jokes to. I have that kind of mutual friendship now with someone I can trust and I wouldn’t trade that for anything in the world.
Overall, I am very happy where I’m at right now. Who knows what the future will hold, but if it’s anything like the last few years, than I’m looking forward to it.
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Question of the Week:
Why do you think it’s considered weird for young people to be in serious relationships?